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ADHD is often stereotyped as hyperactive boys unable to sit still, but for many women, it’s a silent struggle that goes undiagnosed for years. Instead of hyperactivity, ADHD in women often manifests as inattentiveness, emotional dysregulation, or perfectionism—symptoms that are easily misinterpreted as laziness or moodiness.
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Parenthood is a beautiful, challenging experience that reshapes every aspect of life—including your partnership. Sleepless nights, endless to-do lists, and the demands of raising children often leave little room for the connection you once cherished. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.
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Feeling stuck after the election? Racing thoughts, tightness in your chest, and a lump in your throat might be signs of black-and-white thinking—an all-or-nothing mindset that can trap us in negativity. Explore how this cognitive pattern affects post-election processing and learn practical strategies to find balance, heal emotional dysregulation, and embrace the power of “and.”
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Trauma impacts each of us differently, but, on the whole, we often all experience a shift afterwards. We feel helpless, fearful, sad, and maybe even numb. These post-trauma responses make us feel isolated and withdrawn from the world around us and we often feel so disconnected from our old self. We feel like we have lost integral parts of ourselves forever. But, you don’t have to lose yourself or experience the ripple effects of trauma forever. There are ways to empower yourself after trauma!
So, you’ve decided to start counseling and you’re ready to go. Perhaps you’ve never done therapy before or maybe you’re looking to take a new approach. Here are some things you need to know before you start counseling.
You can line up a bunch of great therapists, but if they’re not the best fit for you, you’re not going to do the intense, deep work you’re looking to do. The role of a therapist is to be a guide through your journey, reflect back to you what we see and help you to overcome obstacles towards meeting your goals. If you don’t click with your therapist or don’t feel safe enough to trust them, reaching your goals with them is unlikely. Your therapist should be someone you can relax around and speak freely without fear of being judged. Trust and safety are of paramount importance when you’re looking to do deep work on things like eating disorders, trauma, PTSD, couples’ work or issues specific to the LGBTQIA community.
Our training in graduate school and doctoral programs very rarely provides training for specific diagnoses like PTSD, eating disorders or addictions. So when a therapist decides to have a particular specialty, we need to seek out training geared specifically towards these issues. If you notice that a therapist you’re interested in has indicated that we specialize in a particular area, you might want to ask us what sorts of training we’ve done to qualify us as an expert. This will give you a better idea of how equipped we are to help you with your specific struggle.
I’ve heard people say that therapy is like paying someone to be your friend. This is actually not true. When you hire a therapist and you pay money, what you are paying for is a safe, neutral, objective space and time where you can do your work. It is an energy exchange. You are not paying your therapist to care about you, you are paying for an hour in a room that is completely and totally about you and no one else. In friendships, there’s a give and take, there’s a social obligation to ask how they are and be a support to them. In a relationship with your therapist, you are taking time for yourself only and receiving support that is not reciprocated emotionally, only financially. This dynamic can be extremely healing and empowering and for many, it is the only time and space where healing can truly take place.
Sometimes, in an attempt to save money or save time, people want to schedule therapy sessions every other week or once per month. While there’s nothing particularly wrong with scheduling like this, you may want to rethink the frequency and consistency of your therapy schedule. You don’t have to be in therapy forever. You can establish and work towards specific measurable goals with your therapist and see regular progress. However, progress is more difficult to measure when you attend therapy inconsistently. You may be having symptoms of PTSD, for example, and when several weeks go by without working on those particular symptoms, it is more difficult to get traction. If you’re struggling with binging and purging and you go every week, you can check in with your therapist about the particular triggers and behaviors that may have lead to your binge and purge. Don’t take my word for it, check it out for yourself. Set a goal with your counselor and try going weekly, write down your progress and notice the differences between your weekly sessions over a period of at least 3 months versus bi-weekly or monthly progress over a 3-month period. You may be surprised with the results.
Sometimes we think that as soon as we set foot in the door of a therapy office, we will be “cured” immediately or within a few sessions. The reality is that there’s a therapeutic process which happens in stages. The first stage is joining with your therapist or learning to trust them. When we meet a new friend, we don’t usually tell them our deepest darkest right off the bat, it takes time and trust building to get to a place where we know they are a good friend. A similar concept is applied in therapy. Depending on the client, the level and amount of trauma and defenses, this stage can take anywhere from about a month to sometimes a year or even more. Safety, trust and a therapeutic bond, known as a therapeutic alliance, is formed in order for the therapist to really know and understand the client and for the client to feel safe enough to open up and do their work.
The second stage is where the work is done. Since there’s now an underlying foundation established between therapist and client, the second stage is about vulnerability. There is an unpacking, uncovering, examining and exploring the process that happens with the client and their trauma or their history. This stage is where people see their patterns and make shifts and changes in their thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors. The second stage of the therapeutic process is where clients reach their goals.
The third stage may or may not be part of the therapeutic process, dependent upon the client’s preference. This stage is for maintenance. The client continues therapy but perhaps doesn’t come every week any longer. They use their therapist to check in with, get help with issues as they arise and review the goals and behaviors they established during the second stage. Some people choose to forego this step and skip to the fourth stage.
The fourth stage of counseling is a closure process. After attaining goals in the second stage, and maintaining new behaviors and thought processes in the fourth stage, this last and final stage is a review of accomplishments, work together and closure of the therapeutic relationship. If the client chooses to end counseling, this practice of review and closure can be especially healing for those who have experienced traumatic grief or loss. Saying goodbye in a healthy way, honoring the relationship without suddenly cutting it off is a beneficial process to learn about emotional maturity and sophistication.
I hope these tips have been helpful. Please feel free to comment below with any other tips or feedback you have on this topic. If you’d like to speak further about starting counseling or have any other questions about some of the things I’ve mentioned, please contact me at TiffanySpilove@yahoo.com or call 610-314-8402. I wish you luck in your endeavors and look forward to hearing from you soon!!
