Balancing Parenthood and Partnership: Low-Fee Counseling for Overwhelmed Couples

By Emma Stein, MS, NCE

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Parenthood is a journey filled with joy, challenges, and endless growth. From sleepless nights with newborns to navigating a teenager’s world, the demands of raising children can feel all-consuming, and sometimes it is. Amid this whirlwind, it's easy for the foundation of a partnership to get lost. The emotional connection between partners can fade under the weight of responsibilities, leaving both feeling overwhelmed and disconnected.

The Impact of Parenthood on Relationships

Parenthood changes everything—your schedules, priorities, and even the way you see yourself and your partner. Sleep deprivation, financial stress, and the constant juggling of work and family can lead to miscommunication and tension. Intimacy may take a back seat, and small conflicts can escalate into larger issues if left unresolved. The child becomes the focus and both you and your relationship take the back seat. 

The balance of having just the two of you is no longer there and you are left drowning in a sea of overwhelm. There are things that must get done and not enough time in the day to do them, and the stress and frustration fall onto the back of the relationship. You and your partner are lost in the grind, and the intimacy you once felt is also gone. How to get it all back without adding more to your already full plate? 

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Finding the Balance

Striking a balance between parenthood and partnership doesn’t happen automatically—it requires effort, planning, and compromise. Here are key aspects of finding equilibrium:

1. Time Together as a Couple.

   • It’s easy to put your relationship on the back burner when kids demand so much attention, but carving out time for one another is essential. Schedule regular date nights or even brief check-ins to reconnect emotionally.

2. Teamwork in Parenting.

   • Approach parenting as a team rather than as individuals operating in separate spheres. This means sharing responsibilities, supporting each other in decision-making, and presenting a united front to your children.

3. Individual Self-Care.

   • Both partners need space to recharge individually. By taking care of your own well-being, you can show up as your best self for both your partner and your children.

4. Setting Boundaries.

   • Learn to set boundaries that protect your partnership, such as limiting work hours or scheduling family time. Healthy boundaries teach children the importance of balance and respect for relationships.

5. Communication.

   • Open, honest, and respectful communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Make it a habit to share your thoughts, concerns, and appreciation with your partner.

The Role of Couples Counseling in Bryn Mawr, PA

Is counseling right for your relationship? Can taking an hour a week to work on the partnership really make a difference?

Couples counseling at Spilove provides a neutral, supportive environment for couples to address their concerns, improve communication, and build resilience together.

A couples therapist can help you:

• Identify and address recurring conflicts. Recognizing patterns that lead to arguments can help couples break cycles of negativity.

• Improve communication skills. Learning how to express needs and listen actively can transform the way partners connect.

• Reignite emotional and physical intimacy. Couples therapists can guide couples toward rediscovering the closeness that brought them together in the first place.

• Navigate parenting as a team. Collaborative approaches to parenting foster unity and reduce stress.

Counseling can help you seek a balance that works for your relationship and parenting needs. There is no one-size-fits-all for parenting or partnership tips. It is truly about what works best for you and your partner, working with a counselor can help you navigate the challenges of finding a balance between partnership and parenting. 

Rekindling Intimacy

One of the most significant casualties of parenthood can be intimacy—both emotional and physical. It’s not uncommon for couples to feel distant or “out of sync” as they focus on their roles as parents. However, intimacy is vital to maintaining a strong, healthy relationship.

1. Emotional Intimacy.

   • Emotional intimacy involves feeling connected, valued, and understood by your partner. This requires trust and vulnerability, which can be cultivated through regular, meaningful conversations. Take time to ask each other open-ended questions, share your feelings, and actively listen without judgment.

2. Physical Intimacy.

   • Parenthood often leaves little time or energy for physical connection, but even small gestures—holding hands, cuddling on the couch, or giving each other a quick hug—can make a difference. Remember, intimacy doesn’t have to involve grand gestures. Regular, intentional moments of affection can reignite the spark in your relationship.

3. Prioritizing Intimacy.

   • Schedule time for intimacy the same way you would for other important activities. While it may feel unromantic to plan for it, being intentional ensures that it doesn’t get overlooked. Consider creating rituals, like having coffee together in the morning or a tech-free hour before bedtime, to foster connection.

4. Addressing Barriers to Intimacy.

   • Stress, exhaustion, and unresolved conflicts can all create barriers to intimacy. Couples counseling can help couples identify and address these issues, creating space for reconnection.

The Accessibility of Low-Fee Counseling

Many couples hesitate to seek help due to financial concerns. Low-fee counseling programs, often offered by nonprofit organizations, universities, or community centers, provide affordable solutions. These programs typically feature services delivered by graduate-level counseling interns under the supervision of licensed professionals.

Low-fee counseling not only makes support accessible but also reduces the stigma often associated with seeking help. When counseling is framed as an essential investment in the family’s well-being rather than a luxury, couples are more likely to prioritize it.

A Strong Partnership is Worth the Investment

Balancing parenthood and partnership is no small feat, but it’s one of the most rewarding endeavors a couple can undertake. Seeking counseling isn’t a sign of failure—it’s a courageous step toward creating a healthier, happier home for everyone involved.

Low-fee counseling programs ensure that no family has to choose between financial stability and emotional well-being. With the right support, overwhelmed couples can move from simply surviving to truly thriving together.

If you’ve been putting off seeking help, now is the time to act. Your relationship—and your family’s future—deserve it.

Reignite Your Connection: Strengthening Your Relationship Through Parenthood’s Challenges

Parenthood brings endless joys but can also shift the focus away from your partnership. With Spilove Psychotherapy, you can reconnect, strengthen your bond, and rediscover the love that brought you together. Take the first step toward a healthier, happier relationship. Together, we can help your relationship thrive, for you and your family!

• Schedule a free consultation here so we can get to know your story.

• Explore more about couples therapy by reading our blogs.

• Start your journey toward a more connected and fulfilling relationship.

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About The Author

Emma Stein, MS, NCE

Clinical Specialist

Emma Stein is a Villanova Graduate with a Master of Science in Counseling. She specializes in sports-related anxiety, body image, borderline personality disorder, PTSD, LGBTQ populations, Inner Child work and Women with ADHD. Her approach is grounded in feminist theory and she loves helping her clients to challenge societal exceptions and embrace their full identities.

To learn more or to schedule an initial intake call for therapy in Bryn Mawr or online in Pennsylvania, click the button below.

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Other Therapy Services We Offer in Pennsylvania

In addition to our focus on couples therapy, our skilled therapists offer a variety of other mental health services. These include Ketamine-assisted Psychotherapy, LGBTQIA+ therapy, and trauma therapy. We also provide specialized play therapy for children.

Our couples therapists conduct DBT skills groups as well.

If life coaching is more suited to your needs than traditional therapy, we provide in-person life coaching in Pennsylvania and online services across the US.

Black and White Thinking in the Post Election Era - And the Mindset of Healing

By Emma Stein, MS, NCE

You are feeling stuck post-election, you are full of emotions and unsure where to turn. You find your thoughts are racing and there is no stop. You have a lump in your throat that won’t go away. The tightness in your chest has been there for weeks. Your stomach is in knots. Where is this coming from and when will it stop? 

Black and White Thinking

Black and white thinking, an all or nothing mindset, could be playing a huge role in your post-election processing. Black and white thinking is a cognitive pattern that puts your worldview into a binary, things exist as good or bad. What does black and white thinking sound like? Using phrases such as always, never, impossible, ruined, perfect, and so many more. The instant idealizing or catastrophizing of any situation. Our brains form polarized traps into a thinking pattern that doesn’t allow our thoughts and emotions to exist outside of one context and our bodies react to it. Our minds can take one experience, one message, and throw it all the way to one end of the binary. For example, you make a mistake, black and white thinking turns that into “I always make mistakes and I will never be good at this task.” Is this the truth? Or is the truth that we are human and we make mistakes? Will you make the same mistake again? Will you be good at this task next week? Likely the answer is that you do not always make mistakes, and you will be good at that task over time, that is the box that black and white thinking puts us in. This then leads to negative thinking spirals that make us feel stuck, make our thoughts race, make our bodies react, and so much more. 

Post Election Anxiety

What does this look like in the post-election era? We are often shocked, scared, and confused when we are forced to see that other people do not think the same way as us. We are often thinking of all the worst case scenarios and hurting for the people it impacts. We are hurt by the people who allowed this to happen. We are angry that the world could be such a negative place. All of those things are okay, it is when they become consuming and no other thoughts can hold space that we begin to polarize our minds. We begin to catastrophize, we begin to only see the world as bad. We latch onto the pain and it takes over. The doom sets in. You can be angry, hurt, disappointed, distraught, but allowing those emotions to create a sense of hopelessness can completely take over both our thoughts and our bodies. Our brain can only see the dread and our body holds on to it. So we can be scared and confused, we can be angry at the results, without allowing our brains to fall into the trap of this will never change and things will never improve. 

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Two Things Can Be True: DBT Skills

Try settling into using the word and. Multiple things can be true at one time, and teaching our brain to allow this is crucial in creating a mental space of safety. Healing from the emotional dysregulation from the election looks like allowing your feelings to exist and grounding yourself in the present moment. Healing looks like being angry and upset while also finding ways to practice self-care and bring you little glimmers each day. Figuring out the things that still bring you joy and continuing to create space for them. Healing looks like allowing multiple things to be true at the same time so your brain does not get stuck into a polarized thinking trap and you do not lose yourself in your black and white thinking. For the election, can we be angry, disappointed, and upset AND recognize there are still things we can do to take a stand and help support ourselves and those around us. 

When your friends or loved ones voted in a way that feels unsafe

Think about the people who voted for the other party, black and white thinking looks like belittling and vilifying them. Healing looks like understanding a sense of common humanity, no matter how misguided and unjustified you find their vote; creating an enemy out of them allows the anger to continue to build and the polarized thinking patterns to continue to spiral. Now by no means am I suggesting going to make them your best friend, but walking away from the thinking patterns of bad and good. It may sound like “I do not agree with who you voted for and the principles they ran on AND I do not need to hold on the hostility that I am holding towards you, you are not worth my time and energy.”

Post Election Doom Spirals

In this post-election era it is easy to fall into the doom spiral, it is easy to see all the ways this election is negatively impacting others and it is much harder to pull ourselves out of it. Black and white thinking puts us in a box, think about opening the box and trying to see things from multiple perspectives. Where can I find the and? What can I do to create space for the emotion and the healing? Look at the image below, which word do you see? 

Post Election Good and Evil

Can you see the good AND the evil? In many senses this is true of the world, there can be both good and evil at the same time. The key is allowing both of them to exist in the context of each other without allowing one or the other to become too overbearing. Now maybe you cannot find anything good about the election, this is where we circle back to where you can look to create your own sense of joy, your own glimmer of hope. Find moments where you can do something that allows that lump in your throat to go away for a little while, let the tightness in your chest relax, let your stomach relax. You do not need to forget, you do not need to let it go, you need to be able to put it down when it becomes too much. 

Black and White Thinking is a Trauma Response

There is no way to predict the future, black and white thinking is based in the reality of creating a concrete future before there is one. Try and stay in the moment, ground yourself in the present and look for all the places you can find the and. 

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About The Author

Emma Stein is a Villanova Graduate with a Master of Science in Counseling. She specializes in sports related anxiety, body image, borderline personality disorder, PTSD, LGBTQ populations, Inner Child work and Women with ADHD. Her approach is grounded in feminist theory and she loves helping her clients to challenge societal exceptions and embrace their full identities.

To learn more or to schedule an initial intake call for therapy in Bryn Mawr or online in Pennsylvania, click the button below.